Wednesday, 3 August 2016

Do I really have a friend?

Often times, we ask ourselves this question, not because we don't have or know the answer but because we have turned a blind eye to the answers staring right in our faces. How can you call someone that you clearly know he/she doesn't care about your well being your friend? Sometimes, inorder to feel among or fit in, we go as far as forcing ourselves on a clique of friends who don't know our value. In situations like this, these people will treat you like trash, they will make you feel less than a human because they never placed much value on you from the onset.

Who is a friend?
A friend is one who knows you and loves you all the same. The know your flaws and accept you just the way you are because they understand that nobody is perfect. They know your weaknesses and they stand with you through your weak moments and help you find your inner strenght. A friend is one who knows the song in your heart and can sing it to you when you have forgotten the words. A friend one understands your tears is much more valuable than a lot of friends who only know your smile. 


I'm sure right now, some of you are asking yourself that exact question "do I really have a friend?" The issue is that most times, we tend to misplace people in our lives. We treat acquaintances as bossom friends and we let them in too much into our lives and because they are not supposed to be there,  they cause disasters in our lives. We ought to know the place of people in our lives. There are people that are supposed to be left outside the box, those are "acquaintances". That is their place, they are not supposed to come in any further or know more than they already do. This is one of the reasons why most people feel betrayed but that's not the case. The issue is that the "supposed friend" was just an acquaintance who was let into the box, mistaken for a friend and was given an information he/she could not handle. 
 You should always know the place of people in your life and when you find that true friend that always has your back, never let go of them. They are rare.